It’s time we made a change
When I started this blog I decided that I was going to write something new, informative or inspiring each week. Apparently I would always have something smart or witty to share. But then I guess being a single mum, with two children got in the way. But today, I have to share.
Whilst aimlessly scrolling through my Facebook feed I noticed something, something that has been going on for quite some time, but I am choosing today to finally say something. Maybe today I’m feeling a little more sensitive, or insecure or maybe today I just want to share a little love, rather than watch others hate. There is so much hate. I don’t know where we went wrong in society for everyone to hate on others but I think it’s time we made a stand.
I think that it is about time that we shared more love. Love for others, animals, and ourselves – and we need to show a little more compassion and understanding.
I was listening to a friend not long ago who made a stand, she decided that if she saw a mum in well known, and greatly feared toddler tantrum meets shopping centre she would casually walk up, smile and ever so gently whisper “I’m on your side”. Let’s face it, we’ve all been there at one stage or another, and if you haven’t yet – don’t worry it’s coming. Instead of doing the sideways glance, or potentially judgemental eyes why not be supportive. Because we all know what it’s like, we all know that in that moment that poor mother is feeling like absolute rubbish. So now I am the (slightly creepy) lady at the shops who smiles and shows support to other mums.
As women, we are so eager to judge others and ourselves – more so take our insecurities out on others. Why not highlight what we’re jealous of? I was away camping last summer and this stunning woman walked by in the most amazing dress. My jaw must have hit the ground, I had a moment where I secretly cursed the fact that my skin wasn’t that beautiful shade of olive, my hair never looked that nice, and oh my gosh, how are your legs that long? But I turned it around, I made eye contact and said, “I love that dress, it looks great on you” and it did, she looked amazing. You know what happened? She was so happy, she grinned from ear to ear and said she was feeling a little self-conscious about wearing it, but I had just made her see she was being negative about nothing. She even told me where she bought the dress, told me about the different colours and said I’d look “smokin’” in the red.
Kindness spreads, if we have learned anything from the past we know that hate spreads also. But what is there to hate? Are we hating people because they are different? They have different coloured skin, different religion and beliefs, or do we hate because we are covering up the fear of the unknown? I don’t have an issue with disliking someone because they have done something unforgivable but don’t hate an entire country of people for what one or two people did.
Hating uses up so much energy, it’s utterly exhausting. It literally takes more muscles to frown than smile, so why not put a smile on that dial and do something nice for someone else, don’t expect anything in return, just practice the art of being nice and know that you have done something wonderful.